Why Epigenetics Matter

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Elle Kimi’s Happiness Handbook

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What is epigenetics and why should I care? If you suffer from anxiety (depression), then this may be of interest. Sorry it’s so late but my juices are flowing. 


(Happiness Handbook excerpt)
Blocks to Happy Happy
Anxiety and Epigenetics

Genetic predisposition can attribute to our anxiety. 

Epigenetics are the study of our ancestors DNA. While only 5% of our reactions or responses affect our actions, they are deep seated emotions (anxiety, depression, …) that are often attributed to past lives that are inescapable. Deepak Chopra’s latest book highlights the effect of our choices in life. 
In 1998 I came to the conclusion after being told by Sylvia Browne that past lives or not, I believe THIS is my Last life. She didn’t believe in the past life theory, nor does Deepak. In fact, they come from 2 different perspectives and now agree on this: Some of our memories are not our own, but the DNA inherited from our ancestors … 7 generations back. 

Stress can also created by finances – good and bad.  Sudden windfalls or loss of a job create the same stress. What differs is our reaction. 

I’ve been known to work difficult and challenging deadlines and pulling them off magically. It’s exciting projects like this that actually can cause the most collateral damage with a family. Similar to Ariana Huffington’s story who nearly worked herself to death, she also learned the value of rest. Who has time for rest? Vacations can be more exhausting than work! In my case, the past 7 yrs, especially the last 5, have been extremely tight – juggling long periods of unemployment between spouses, multiple jobs, going back to school – these can all add stress to relationships, especially within family. Owning my own business gives me job security and time freedom. 
Since the 2008 Recession, life changed drastically for most in the U.S. For us, we rode it out working for a client in Oklahoma City just before it hit our hometown hard. I continued my commute to Big Bear keeping my design business and property management profitable. Coming back two years later, we still had a house but now saw a need to relocate. 
Triggers? Different for everyone! Know thyself. It helps a lot to know your weaknesses in order to be better prepared. Think of all senses. Is Work a trigger? Is it the load (55 hrs/wk) or is it your boss? Maybe the light or smells? 
Anxiety with New Places or People? If it’s an irrational fear, my biggest and best tool was to (finally) say YES! for a measured amount of time and suck it up. For Shonda Rhimes she believes being your own person requires saying yes even when you’re not expected to. For me, I started with one week and watched it expand to a month, a year, and now a lifetime. Liberating! This truly gave me more confidence to do more scary crazy things I would usually avoid. 
Does Time heal all? Well no, not always. Sometimes Father Time needs some help. Enlist Mother Nature by all means, and don’t forget yourself. Only you are truly responsible for every reaction and subsequent life choices. Anxiety can be circumstantial or chronic. Who hasn’t experienced some stress around finances in the past 7 years? It’s been quite a test of character for most of us. Anxiety can cause one to age prematurely causing unwanted dis-ease let alone aesthetic concerns of biting nails and chewing on your lip.  
Treatment Options

Medication vs Meditation 

Do a cost benefit analysis – is a dry mouth worth minimizing 4 panic attacks a day? Or would ‘talk therapy’ help in the time that you could use PRN instead. (Self) Hypnosis and Meditation have been a blessing when changes need to be be made easing the transition in my life. I personally am trained in Hypnosis by my own dear mother, a clinical psychotherapist certified in hypnotherapy, who also used journaling as a personal escape hatch in her stressful field of psychiatry. Although rewarding, her inability to share her own experiences due to her license car restrictions. In fact, much of this book is indeed straight from my own journal. (See Facebook group, Happiness Handbook for the real journal). Spending time in nature is uplifting for many reasons. In fact, even a landscape picture or painting in your work space can aide in deeper breathing. 

Enjoy your life with healthy choices.  

Share it with joy. Dance like you mean it. 




This material is experiential and anecdotal not a medical diagnosis. If your symptoms last more than 2 weeks, you should consult your health professional. 

Neuroplasticity –https://youtu.be/NdqKhkma4Pg

Deepak Chopra, lecture at LinkedIn 11/20/15

Thrive, Arianna Huffington 2014

Year of Yes, Shonda Rhimes 2015

#TBT #dancingwithmyself #twinkletoes

Success is…


This statement resonated from my Father countless times. Did I listen? I respected it. When I read it on #FireSS, I hear it again – Truth.

“When passion is a priority— passion for family, for vocation, for meaning— your energy intensifies. And when your energy is more focused, more “aimed,” you begin to care less about the things that don’t really matter . You reach out and get the help you need to pull off the important things. You avoid crappy jobs; you stop trying to control the people around you; you complain less and appreciate more. Full-on living includes fantastic productivity and immense stillness, self-centeredness and self-sacrifice, time to flare and space to fizzle. Up close, or by the standards of those who prefer the safety of balance, it may look off-kilter, but when you step back, you might see a masterpiece called Your Life, Lived. Priceless. THIS IS IT: THE SECRET TO SUCCESS
Remember you heard it here first.


Sustained Wellness

Auld Lang Syne!
Auld Lang Syne, my friends…

“We turn not older with years, but newer every day.” Emily Dickinson

I am so blessed and grateful for this year of The Tower for me, anyway. 2014 has finally come to a successful close. My book is finished and ready for editing, marketing and publication. Being that I am already starting the second in a series, I’d call that a success. (More on that later)

If you’ve ever tried to make a New Year Resolution, you can understand the frustration when it’s sabotaged yet again! Since I gave up Blaming & Excuses, I was stuck with looking at the mirror when I felt a ‘saboteur’ in my midst. Painful but effective. My sense of humor has since kicked in handling the brutal reality of this Truth. Staying active and meditation helped too.

Now what? I’ve accomplished priceless goals that took all year, 4 seasons, to assimilate into my lifestyle for good. As mentioned earlier, I move on to an even loftier goal – sell my book. (I could say that wasn’t my main objective, but the income could go to a good cause – say my child’s education.). Seriously, this has been my usual attempt at a Resolution, but at a higher level of accountability. Scary, but well worth the effort and patience. I have a long way to go still, yet I feel I have made the most difficult step – commitment. (Fellow bloggers, you know what I’m talking about.)

I’m interested, did you resonate with the quote above? Unless you’re under 35 (we love you too!), I have been working with most clients like you, from 35 to 97. The scope of my practice being sports injuries in competitive athletes. Key word here – competitive. That one thing alone is responsible for 75% of my business. Some of us just don’t know when to say when. lol.

I present this new book as a gift of my perspective, education, experience and intuition for you to keep as a reminder or give as a gift to someone who has been a big part of your life this past year. Your success in meeting goals is my motivation to continue on my life path of natural affordable wellness. There is a renaissance in healthcare happening right now that will only continue into 2015 and beyond. Curious? Look into it – be a part of the Revolution Solution®!

Respect Yourself!

All Wounded Healers have a calling full of roadblocks and inner demons to struggle with in a very limited time allotted to create on this exquisite Earth. And being a holistic wounded healer, we realize that we do not exist in a vacuum, but as one universal living, breathing organism.

What are the memories that stand out for you in 2014?

Look up to the stars tonight and make a promise to yourself to take a baby step to a healthy lifestyle starting NOW.

Let’s be the change we want to see in our world be changed. It’s been said that to have the self knowledge without self change is virtually self abuse. Obviously, I’ve added another component to this equation … Knowledge – Sharing = Denial
YOU can make a difference if you really want it. If I can do it, my guess is my friend so can you.

“Beauty is a Gift of God.” Unknown

Beauty has been said to be only skin deep and in the eye of the beholder. While a superficial definition of being fabulous seemingly exist from without. In actuality, beauty is from within. When all the conditions prescribed in this book are followed faithfully, your MindBodySpirit will be harmonized becoming a more symmetrical and whole human being. Is beauty a gift? If so, give it to yourself. You are in the driver’s seat – are you mindful of your journey?

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May you all enjoy a Fabulous New Year’s Eve and ring in the New Year safe and sane. My prayer for you is
hoping your internal holiday light will kindle the fire inside of you in a way that will make a difference in something greater than yourself in the coming year!

Thanks for joining in –
Happy 2015!!


Oxytocin; The Hugging Hormone

As I’ve been a big advocate of oxytocin producing best practices due to the epidemic of nagging environmental plagues such as lack of hugging, laughing, holding babies (any species), sex, … well, you get the picture. Oxytocin is a hormone that falls into disrepair without your mom or wife/girlfriend around. Sorry guys – but it is contagious. Point made. Easy for this?

So I recommend this idea as an evidence-based friendly reminder to plan a juiced up oxytocin weekend soon … with your Besties. Sharing these experiences are almost as effective to Oxytocin Inducement (OI) as the actual experience. (Ever experience, or witness, ‘leaking’ as the just the thought of a baby’s cry when lactating?)

As one of my favorite mentors, Sara Gottfried, MD, has mentioned recently,
“Do you agree that there’s nothing like a weekend with your girlfriends? While science has proven this, I want to learn about your experience with the alchemy of girlfriends. Combine girlfriend time with healthy food and burst training, and you’ve got a life recipe that truly serves you. I’m wishing you that lovely juxtaposition of being sore and satisfied from pushing yourself to your limits, plus time with your besties. We seem to face a modern plague of oxytocin and embodiment deficiency — and I hope you can take in the good of your girlfriends and the right dose of exercise this week. Sweat hard. Tend and befriend.”

You can thank me later … Happy OI Hunting you adventurous souls you! IMG_2584.JPG

oxytocin & bonding
oxytocin producing gland
more than the ‘Love Hormone’
OXYR – maladaptive behaviours
importance of oxytocin in childbirth

Is Love Enough?

When I first saw this clip, I was a bit uncomfortable with the premise of this
award winning short film. I found to my delight that the time (19:12) invested was well worth the watch. NOTE: watch this Indie when you feel a need to be humbled. I seem to watch The Chair on the edge of my seat just witnessing the scenes behind the scenes (all the while thinking of my son’s own burgeoning ‘musical/film career’). To this one film enthusiast, I see a portrayal – a coming of age – that isn’t your classic pubescent lanky boy (who are always so endearing), but a brave tween girl who finds out what it means to live in a world of conditional ‘love’ never feeling adequate, or quite enough as it were.
I’ll be honest, it does run a parallel of my childhood in two ways. One, I remember bullies taunting my brother (younger by 11 months & 1 day, God rest his soul) while feeling helpless to be of any aide. Secondly, it dawned on me one day after they teased, beat him and broke his glasses then stole his bike that enough is enough. Girl or not I will make this right without violence (those bullies were bigger and stronger than I). With my newly found 11 year old assertive flair, I ran to the school grounds looked the main thug in the eye and demanded the return of my brother’s bicycle. Of course, they then began eyeing me as perhaps another chip off the block of ‘turning the other cheek’. They were sorely surprised to find that they had already cashed in on that token, as far as I was concerned, and decidedly stood my ground as one spat in my face. Shaking in my weakened knees by then, adrenaline all but gone, I found my last spark of courage to end this sardonic game and get back what’s rightfully our family’s property. (Can you tell I was also the oldest?). ‘You don’t scare me’ was my only reply and to my dumbfounded disbelief, returned the bike to me begrudgingly. I felt a surge of exhilaration at having not only winning the bike back, but finally ending the bullying – at least for our family.
As I rode off into the sunset (with the satisfaction of also knowing my brother owed me, big time), the main thug desperately ran after me. What now? I wondered. With a shy silly grin on his face, he blurted, “Do you want to go steady?’ with money in his hand – no doubt liberated from one of his many victims. Ugh, so much for my bravado tactics. While I had no intentions of going ‘steady‘ with him (I already had a ‘steady‘, the Police Chief’s son of all people), I suppose in his own way he admired the fact that someone, anyone, finally stood up to him. Or was it merely just another infatuated lanky pubescent boy coming of age himself? One can only hope.